Here I am on the other side. I made it. I made it through another storm.
Instead of dusting off my shoes I feel like there are lawnchairs, houses and other large debris I'm dusting off from my energy field. It was like a mad hurricane this time.
I feel in many ways this process I go through is like an endurance test. I hope that one day I will have developed a stronger heart so that the twists, turns and the road uphill is much easier on my breath and lungs.
So, I was going to write awhile ago about what moved me into the light but I was too busy enjoying the calm :)
Two things come to mind that really helped:
I started participating in the new support group, Soul Speak, that I found on Meetup.com. I've been to a childhood sexual abuse survivors support group before but this time it's different. Perhaps it's because I'm more ready this time but it felt less clinical, more relaxed and I met some fantastic people and even made an Indigo connection with the facilitator. Furthermore, I had a dream about the very location that it's being held at. It's in a couch house that has been home to many survivors, including young children. The place feels magical, nurturing and safe.
Before this happened, I had a few 'aha' moments, which propelled me out of the darkness. I did something kind for someone at work (and I've had these hunches before about being of service when it gets really dark), it quickly moved me from being a victim to being of service and getting me out of my story. Not only does it get me out of my story but it allows me to drop into the zone of being on purpose to help and heal others.
I was also revisiting some material on the notion of radical forgiveness - moving from self-hatred (guilt/fear/shame) to that of self-acceptence. The feeling of being guilty, that I did something horribly wrong felt more close to the surface than ever. Colin's teachings assured me that the feelings of self-hatred is something that everyone feels on some level. It reminded me that yes, I'm an Indigo and yes, I feel everything that everyone else feels but ten times more strongly. Everything gets exhaggerated and is seemingly harder because I'm aware, I'm awake. Anyhoo, I completed an online course through Colin Tipping's website - radicalforgiveness.com, and came through feeling like I understood what was going on a more logical level and that I had the tools to get through it.
Touching on my last post, I said that nature heals.. . all summer I've been communing with nature, going to parks, camping, feeling close to my boyfriend, playing with frogs (which is one of my power animals that really excites my inner child). Nature and being in the water and connecting back with the earth has really grounded, cleansed and given me hope that things will get better. Nature heals like no other. I am so grateful for that.
In addition here are some other positives that I've experienced over the duration of the summer that I feel I should celebrate:
- I've been meditating every day. I understand the importance of this for me, since being an Indigo and having PTSD, I really struggle with grounding and keeping my attention focused. There's a quote that really spoke to me to my Indigo-ness and how I really need to feed and nurture this spirit through high vibrational activities:
"If you bring forth what is within you, what you will bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth with destroy you".
This is a powerful quote for me that perhaps in a later blog entry I can touch on.
- I've been sleeping like a baby - virtually no insomnia. This is unbelievable. It plagued me for so long. Years. I attribute this to being held at night by my boyfriend and not being so afraid to go to sleep since he stays with me most nights. I hope that when he's not around these fantastic sleep patterns carry through.
- This is a bit personal to share but such a milestone: I've experienced absolutely no body memories or flashbacks when being intimate with my boyfriend - NONE! This is momumental. I didn't think I'd ever get to experience pure pleasure, respect and free from such dark feelings. I am so very thrilled about this, I could leap or do hand farts. My inner being yells YES, YES, YES to pleasure, happy feelings and loving my body :). Thank you!!!!
-I've cut down on both medications: Albeit superficial reasons maybe. I gained a whooping 20 pounds since being on medication this past year and it was really distressing. I also felt since talking with my therapist that perhaps the feelings I was moving through so strongly were meant to be felt instead of me needing to take more medication. My psychiatrist already wanted me to wean off the Seroquel so I decided to start that process and while I was at it to reduce my depression/anxiety meds as well.
- I've decided to take a break from therapy for the first time in 13 years: again another huge change. I need to get out and enjoy life more. Do FUN things and use my money to buy things I need instead of spending so much money on therapy all the time. Now that I'm getting older buying a house and other things are on my mind. Some day I'd even like to drive a car instead of forking out money for healing. So yeah, practical life things.
I wanted to outline these positives so that I can remember that things really are changing! That I am evolving, growing and getting stronger. I am getting through this mess.
It's so hard to see the changes when the light is so dim or when you're smack dab in the middle of the muck.
Writing always helps to solidify and reflect and to see more clearly just what's really happening. It brings such great gounding and clarity. My inner self continues to urge me to write. I keep getting the message so thus I will listen.
Remarkable progress considering that a month ago I felt like all that I was experiencing would consume me.
I'm giving myself a big pat on the back today :)